Friendship......

There’s always this ritual…. There are these days when I feel like writing but possess no idea about what to write…. Then I ask my closest pals for a topic… then depending on my thoughts, I write….

A few weeks ago, my good friend asked me to write about “Friendship”!

I didn’t write then, because I was devoid of any ideas… But today (Read: Today my mind went to flashback mode wherein it experienced and re-lived certain moments that happened in the past few days or weeks or even months.), I felt something that I want to pen down.

Friendship…. This word can’t have any synonym! Nor can anyone create one!

Friendship is not only in hanging out together, chatting with each other, watching movies together, playing games with each other, going out on picnics, taking up an activity together, studying together, celebrating birthdays and festivals together etc. These are just actions. Friendship is about all the feelings behind all those actions!

You may have a dozen friends or even more to spend your time in a certain action, but only few FRIENDS to possess those true feelings behind!

Recently I understood one very important feeling that comes in friendship…. SUPPORT!!!!

Every individual has his/her set of fears, dreams, ideas, weaknesses, passions, likes, dislikes etc. And for every aspect we carve for support which can be under the guise of an understanding, an advice, an encouragement, an inspiration etc.

We all like it. We all feel anew after we receive it!

I will give an illustration. Writing is my biggest passion till date. There’s nothing that relieves me or gives me enough solace as writing does. But going back, I don’t think, I would have ever realized this if I didn’t have my friends! My junior college friends made me write poems. They appreciated my every effort, backed me in every line…. SUPPORTED me in my every work! This continued with my degree college friends. They coaxed me to write a blog, commented on each effort, encouraged me in my dream….. SUPPORTED me in every endeavor!

Besides writing, these people also helped me in my every need, made my day when low, stood with me in despair and SUPPORTED me in my decisions!

And I hope this sustains!

Life is incomplete without this “Support-system”! Think about all those friends who supported you in every venture of your life, who stood with you in your every right or wrong doing…. Spend more with all those people….. Support them when they need you….

With this blog I would like to thank all my friends, from nursery to engineering, for their immense support during my every path, my every activity! In every little way, I am grateful to all you guys!

But, last and not the least; it would be unfair if I didn’t specially mention some people…

That individual who is virtually with me 24X7 always..... The one who stands with me in my every laugh, my every frown, my every tear.....the one who listens to my every anxiety, my every fear, my every hue and cry, my every aspiration.  

That individual in whose presence I feel protected…. The one who encourages me to be good in my every role… and inspires me to be a good human being……the one whose words strengthen me in my weakness and motivates me in my step ahead.

Concluding, I would like to put up this quote which I read somewhere…

“The best mirror is a friend’s eye! The glory of friendship is not in the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is in the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to support him!”

( P.S.  Images Courtesy: Friends!!)

 

As i walk.....

As I walk through the paths of my life……

I goof up, I scramble, I mutate, I leap,

And my eyes look for people who support me deep!

As I walk through the by-lanes of my life……

I fight, I struggle, I emerge, I seep,

But, unknown, in the corner, I silently weep!

As I walk through the roads of my life……

I growl, I moan, I grunt, I freak,

And I feel alone when there’s no one to speak!

As I walk through the tracks of my life…….

I am puzzled, I am baffled, I am stumped, I doubt,

Looking for someone who can make it easier to route!

As I walk through the courses of my life…….

I am glum, I am down, I am broke, I grieve,

And I hope for something to make it simple to perceive!

As I walk through the alleys of my life……

I get angry, I get anxious, I swear, I beat,

And I long to the one, with whom, myself, I meet!

As I walk through the rails of my life……..

I smile, I grin, I laugh, I have a blast,

Praying that this thing could forever last!!!

Mixed Feelings!!!

Has it ever happened to you? There are so many things to pen down… but when you actually write…. You find no words! There are so many things to say…. But when you open your mouth to speak…. You find no speech! There are varied feelings circulating inside your mind or heart or brain or wherever…… but when you actually pay heed to it….. You don’t know what’s wrong!

Your life seems like a jig-saw puzzle waiting to get completed.

All the words, from your friends, get into deaf ears!

Your family time goes in pretence!

You end up staring aimlessly at the things around you….. Losing track of all the other things and aspects!

You end up knowing that you are not happy….. But you don’t even realize that, within, you are sad!

You end up doing everything that pleases you…. But nothing causes that genuine smile!

You end of existing, not living…… and completely not being “you”!

Why does this actually happen?

Mood-Swing?

Stress?

Loneliness?

An unexpected change?

No, I have no answers! Nor does my intellect provide any solutions!

In fact, I am finding the answers too.

The purpose of writing this blog is simple. Every one goes through this feeling! Some choose to ignore it and move… while some continue to retrospect its roots!!!

Life is not simple….. And everything in it is not planned by you or anyone else. There are always questions which have no answers…. There are always situations which have no solutions…… There are always unscheduled hurdles which are difficult to site……. There are always things which are not in your hands……

Life is not an A, then B, then C…… Life has no paper-work! Every other time, there’s something which can blow your mind completely! Life is the biggest adventure!

The least you can do is… Go with it! Accept it the way it is! And love yours the way it is!!

Love v/s Hate......

Love rules the world,

Love rules the heart!

In places, where abuses hurled,

Love exists in which part?

Love is among friends,

One present for other.

Envy comes, trust ends,

Who, for the other, bothers?

Love is between a parent,

And the little child, lone.

Many fill old-age home rents,

Several enter adoption zones!

Love is serene and pure,

Unselfish, all lovers know!

Many end in lust and lure,

A game to use and throw!

Love is the strongest emotion,

It’s what God taught!

Why funds for ammunitions,

Why were wars fought?

Hate laughed and laughed….. In its villainous laugh…….

The world is ruled by hate,

Love is kicked to the corner!

But still, in the twist of fate,

Every man prays love’s shower!

In hate, revenge, there is,

Present in brain’s every fold!

Yet, forgiveness is bliss,

For who, no grudges, hold!

Hate is within corrupt rich,

Who have all in hands!

But, Joy is in no conscience-itch,

For who simply plough their lands!

Hate is in minds of selfish,

Of whose, success fills files!

Yet, kindness is relished.

Coz it leads to a smile!

Hate lies in proudly pride,

Who attain power with wins.

Still, love maintains your tide,

Doesn’t let you pay for sins!

Ultimately Hate lost his laugh........

In this world today, every mind has love….. every mind has hate!

Some choose the power of love…. Some choose the illusion of hate….

As much as we try, both aspects creep into our lives…..

It’s what we persist to choose…. It’s where we persist to thrive…..

Love makes you pure……. Love makes you serene…..

Perceive love in every point and love in every line……

Dedicate your life to the undeniable power of love….

And you’ll reap… you’ll attain… what you truly sowed….

Life is short.....

Has it ever happened to you? One moment, you are sad and morose thoughts are churning around your head….. And in sometime, something just unplanned happens; that takes your breath away and pastes a smile in your face so much that you start to regret that you were ever sad!

Has it ever happened to you? You’ve had a terrible week. Got caught up in work and additionally, all sorts of matters entered your life…. And suddenly, a heavenly weekend drops into your kitty. You have one of the most memorable experiences in your life, and you wonder what made you invest your week thinking about things so temporary and irreparable!

We all spend so many moments in our life sad, tensed, angry, worried, etc that we take away a chance to smile! Agreed, it’s not possible to smile always. Situations do bring in all the above emotions…. But, I believe, it’s not impossible to repair all the causes of your emotions. Sooner or Later, if you clearly see, you will find reasons to smile and tackle everything with new zest!

Because this is your LIFE!!!!!!! You don’t know what you had earlier and what you will get later!! It’s just this one life!!!

And Life’s not to whine for a girl you didn’t get…. Life’s not to do a job you don’t like….. Life’s not to give up in the last step…. Life’s not to prove you to everyone, but to prove you to yourself….. Life is a waiting for glory, for light amidst struggle and darkness!

Life is short! Do things you love… Do it for yourself and not for others…. Care for people you’re close to…. Find time for people you care……. Love truly…… Go for holidays…. Take a break…… Do everything you fear…… Fulfill every dream you dreamt….. Find time for your favorite hobby…. Play your favorite sport…. Invest time in a good deed….. Spend festivals with family and your set of friends…. Read stuff… Sing and Dance in a karaoke…

Again, Life is short! Don’t waste it in hatred and holding grudges against people…. Understand them and remember them for the good they possess…. If you make an attempt, you will surely sight those! Forgive people but don’t forget them….. Learn from mistakes but only when you should! Trust some people….. Everything can’t be achieved alone! Cut down your prejudices…. There are always things which are called “Exceptions”! Take the chances you believe in… Even if they are going to change your life forever…. They might be worth it! Never judge people…. Because nothing and no one is predictable, there are facets you fail to scrutinize! Travel a lot….. Because sometimes, getting lost will help you find yourself! And believe in God…. Man can’t answer every question!

Again, Life is SHORT! Live it like it’s yours!!!!! Live it like a dream!!!! Live it like it’s the only thing you own!!!!! And always remember… Irrespective of whatever comes your way… Life is BEAUTIFUL!!!

Love Stories!!!!!!!

LOVE….. Love is something which every human experiences in every micro-second of his/her life…. But still has no words to explain it!

We belong to a funny generation… Everyone has their own distinct perspective about LOVE! For someone, Love is courage….that makes them walk that extra mile. For someone, Love is strength….to tackle every obstacle in sight. For someone, Love is time-pass….to make their days a little vibrant. For someone, Love is for the weak….because it makes you do something you don’t intend to do. For someone, Love is patience….a wait for the right one at the right time. For someone, Love is pain…..because you sometimes end up losing. For someone, Love is serene….the only unselfish feeling in the world. For someone, Love is silent….felt in the heart, not spoken in words. For someone, Love is non-existent….because they are too pessimistic to experience it in their life.

For me, I don’t think any set of words can appropriately and wholly describe what “LOVE” is! I was, am and will always be a fan of Love Stories…… From books to movies, I love the whole idea of this genre…. I avidly read Nickolas Spark’s novels…. A Walk to Remember, True Believer, Dear John, etc… I enjoy watching Romcoms like Jab we Met, Wake up Sid, The Proposal, 50 First Dates, Notting Hill, When Harry Met Sally, 27 Dresses, Band Baaja Baarat and many more.

I am a sucker when it comes to Love Stories (Conditions apply. Provided I find it convincing). Call me an Emotional fool… Yes, I am!

I admit Fairy tales don’t exist in everyone’s case. It’s for the Cindrellas and Rapunzels and Snow Whites! But, everyone has to admit… Love Stories exist!

Girls wait for the Chandler (Friends), Edward (Twilight), Arjun (Namastey London), Jai (Jaane tu ya jaane na) and Aman (Kal ho na ho) of their lives to give them their worth….. And Guys expect a Shalini (Dil Chahta hai), Geet (Jab we Met), Ayesha (Wake up Sid), Sophie (Music and Lyrics) and Vivian (Pretty Women) to make them fall in love!!!

The common aspect is that…. There comes someone in your life who teaches you what it is to love!!

For some, love results in marriage…. And for some, with marriage begins love! For some, it’s that “Forever-and-Always” childhood friend…. And for some, it’s that “You-Belong-with-me” college buddy! For some, it’s the *chupke-chupke* love with the person in the opposite apartment…. And for some, it’s the *haule-haule* love with the person in a distant city! For some, it’s the Rockstar who reciprocates their love…. And for some, Solace is found in the Geek who always loved them! For some, it’s the co-passenger in the Kingfisher flight they once met and stayed forever in contact….. And for some, it’s the person in the everyday 9.15 Churchgate Fast train they finally managed to ask out…. For some, one look is enough to make them realize that this is the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with…. And for some, even a lifetime is not enough to finally realize that this is the person they are meant to be with!

The definitions of Love changes with age…..But the true essence of love is not in the flowers, love letters exchanged, mushy-mushy dialogues, frequent messaging and calls…… But it’s in all the little unselfish acts you do for that special person, thinking about their happiness and not yours! It’s not in the “Oh! How beautiful you are!” or “Aw! You’re so good!”…. But it’s in the fact that, irrespective of the people the person has wronged, the irritating habits, the hurting incidents, you still CHOOSE to Love that person and spend your life with that person!!!

It’s how Shania Twain puts it…

“You're still the one I run to...

The one that i belong to...

You're still the one i want for life!”

Photographs!!!!!!!

Pictures tell a thousand words!!!!

A few days back I was going through all the photo albums inside my drawer. Right from my parents’ adolescence to my and my brother’s “child”-hood! From the black and white photographs to the colour photographs, all developed over camera reel!

A new sense of nostalgia always erupts with photographs! Every picture makes us revisit a place in our memories which was forgotten during the course of our life!

To add to the fun, watch it with all the people involved! Watch your family pictures with your family and rest assured, you will have a gala time!

When I ponder over my parents’ photographs… their marriage photographs… I always feel that my father is the best looking guy and my mother is nothing short of a film actress! It’s an absolute delight to watch your relatives’ years younger… The older generation now, looking beautiful, basking in their youthful glow then! And the mighty and bossy young fellows now, being pictured as meek and innocent creatures then!

When I look up to my or my brother’s childhood photographs… They always amaze me! How our every day, every month and every year as a child, has been trapped in these photographs! How we have changed and yet not changed! Our childhood activities (like Dance, fancy dress shows etc.), our birthdays, our first festivals, every photograph a testimony of all the times gone! It startles me how supremely cute everyone looks as a child! Just flawless! Something which can never appear hereafter!

Then there are albums of various trips to various places that we embarked upon…. Right from Delhi-Chandigarh-Manali-Shimla in the north to Mysore-Munnar- Kanyakumari in the south; every journey made immortal…… There are many other cities that my photographs serve as evidence of my visit! Every album reminds me of the places I explored, the hilarious incidents that happened, and very importantly… of the people involved!!!

I also possess some school time photographs…. Of the secondary level picnics wherein I enjoyed with friends, the 10^th STD trip to Saputara and also the farewell party at school! Every photograph makes me revive my 12 yrs in school, my friends, my teachers, my achievements, humorous incidents…. Oh, a LOT!!

Thereafter, digital photographs and built-in camera phones came in and the number of photographs taken only increased…

Sometimes I juggle through pictures of my rendezvous with friends, tiny expeditions with them, birthdays celebrated together, all exhibiting the cherished moments I spent with them!!

I occasionally go through all the pictures that were clicked in the recent years with my degree college friends at many hang-outs, at parties, at celebrations, at birthdays, at fests…. They are so many… yet all so special!!!

Every photograph has a story behind it! A reason for it! It makes all of us go in flashback mode and recollect how it was taken, when it was taken, why it was taken, etc! It reminds you how people change, how you change and how feelings change!

Albums become a thesis to our evolution over the years…. From the cradle to the podium! The various poses in which we were caught to the various poses in which we are caught…. It explains a lot! Personally I’m not much of a fan of being photographed…. I disliked it then and so appeared grumpy and still sometimes dislike it…. But I can’t deny that I love going back memory lane viewing those!

Try it guys!! If you haven’t gone through it in a long time, search for those, sweep the dirt away and scan through each album once! Scrutinize every picture with the people around you and re-live all those memories!! You would not regret it!

And, lastly, to repeat my good friend’s words (he will recognize it surely), Take pictures (my input: not in excess like him), pose heartily…. It’s only later you will realize how important it is to you!