Saturday, April 13, 2013

A journey to end.......


Yes, my blog is very much alive and back with a bang (well, hopefully :P)!

Like a lakh other people, I enrolled for engineering four years back. But the catch is that I never had any interest in it. I still don’t! I aspired to go into arts, become a journalist or something. Whoever knows me well would vouch that engineering was never my cup of tea. But with destiny (read: average grades and parental pressure), I stepped into K.J. Somaiya College of Engineering in Computers Branch. I detested it, often struggled and always cursed it. But now, with only one month of college ahead of me and almost four years of memories, experiences and lessons in my chest, I will leave engineering with wet eyes.

What was it that caused this sentiment? Where do I begin writing? What do I convey which will make it different than the others?

I knew the answers, but never could do justice in acknowledging it.

My strange sentiment with engineering is definitely not with the curriculum or subjects or practicals, but with some special people whom I was destined to cross roads with.

Thinking about it, I wonder if my years in engineering could have been manageable without them. I wonder if my low times could ever transform into joy if I didn’t have their strength and presence.

Prior to engineering, things were always straight and clear. But these four years made me realise a new facet of life! That the joy of achievement means most only when you share it with someone and the pain of failure lessens only when you see someone standing with you. It taught me that life can be unfair to you, but certain people can always make an illusion that it never was.

My every little achievement—articles, blog posts, poems, grades, speeches, presentations, wickets scrapped in cricket, carom strikes, bowling score and every little recognition, wouldn’t have been special if I didn’t have them acknowledging it.

My every little failure— rejection from job interviews, failed relationships, betrayal, back-bitings and every little rough point, would have been disastrous if I didn’t have them supporting and comforting me.

In four years, they have become my own!

But there is also a fact- As college goes through, and life flows with it, we become so engrossed in chasing fun, grades, projects, parties, jobs and PG examinations that we lose sight of the little things that matter a lot. We forget to acknowledge them. We forget to give them their due. We take them for granted.

So here’s something for you to do. Close your eyes for a minute and look for those people who made your journey a little special for you. You will stumble to realise that your journey was even better than what you imagined it as!

My post is not to bade goodbye to engineering, there is another month left for it. It is a gentle reminder to everyone that there is only one month left! Make time for such people, make them feel what they made you feel and thank them. Do it all before the journey ends. Because, no matter what, these days will never return. And who knows, you’ll get a friend for a lifetime.

Personally, I would take this opportunity and thank my set of people. Your presence, your continuous backing, your every acknowledgement and your friendship made my engineering a super journey. It made me laugh, cry, learn, grow, evolve, carve, enrich, nurture and above all give out my best in everything.

And to do justice, there will always be one or few special-er people who deserve special-er acknowledgement, without whom my journey of engineering would be incomplete. You define me. You make me what I am now. Every day of the last four years were unique with you and I would dearly miss that afterward. If you are reading this, with my whole heart, I extend a 'Thank you'.


Tuesday, February 5, 2013

American tv shows v/s Indian soap operas












v/s



*Television on*

Star Plus- Saath Nibhana Saathiya. (Two sisters- one naïve, one pure evil. Save!)

Life OK-Devo ke Dev Mahadev. (Mythology of Lord Shiva, the best Shiva across shows!)

Zee Tv- Pavitra Rishta. (Love and separation across generations. Someone stop it!)

Colors- Balika Vadhu. (Ideal bahu between two husbands. Gawd!)

Sony-Badde Achhe Lagte Hain. (Peehu missing? Who’ll run the show now?)

Every television in an Indian household definitely remotes through these channels.

Then there exists a set of Indian audience (most cosmopolitan people, majorly youths) that revel in the below.

Star World-How I met your mother. (Aren’t they AWESOME?)

Zee café- Big Bang Theory. (Sheldon, Bazinga! Penny, hawt! The gang, funny!)

Prime Big CBS- Dexter. (The cute guy solving highly crafted and brilliant crimes.)

Love Big CBS- Sex and the city. (Who doesn’t love Carrie?)

BBC Entertainment- Sherlock. (You, your voice…. Adrenaline rush!)

Since years, the debate ‘American shows v/s Indian soaps’ has always picked up steam wherein people would end up backing American counterparts because of its hard-hitting reality and its absolute creative and brainy scripts! I remember chatting about this with my friend graduating in medical studies. With backdrop in medical field, we discussed about American shows (Grey’s anatomy, Scrubs) vis-à-vis Indian ones (Sanjeevani, Kuch toh log kahenge). We compared how the American shows demonstrated real cases and operations, the mindset and workload of doctors and their life with near perfection rather than the absolute drama, clichéd love and never -working of doctors in Indian ones. In American shows, importance and innovation is put in every aspect, whereas in Indian ones, every soap opera roams around the same story-line i.e. two protagonists meet, fall in love and entry of several elements sabotaging their relationship. If TRPs trip, there’s sudden death or accident or worse, Leap!

 This monotonous nature is one of the prime reasons why American shows win. The others?  Let’s go through them generically.

1>     Comedy:  There are many shows and specialized channels for comedy. Still everything rolls to slapstick and not-so-funny! Nothing can even reach one millionth of how hilarious Friends, Big Bang Theory and Community are! The ones which are above the rest were Sarabhai v/s Sarabhai, Dekh Bhai Dekh and first editions of Hum Paanch, Khichdi and Office Office.

2>     Crime investigations:  With CID completing almost fourteen years, its cases have long ago started to lose lustre. All shows within this genre (Adaalat, Arjun) did well in initial stages but lost the plot later. In another light, if you come to see the brilliance of every case and its corresponding intelligence and technicality of shows like Sherlock, Dexter and Homeland, you will swear not to watch the Indian ones again!

3>     Reality shows: Firstly, most reality shows are copied from their American respective. But all of them look fake and staged for TRPs. And if you view every dance, singing, game or cookery reality show in USA, they are ounces above ours. Theirs is more highlighting talent, ours is more masala mockery.

4>     Love Stories: The basic factor in most Indian soap operas today. They brag about how much Aditya and Pankhuri love each other and how many sacrifices Manav and Archana have made! In American counterparts for the same, they have proved how perfect Monica and Chandler are together and how Marge completes Homer Simpson. Theirs is more modern and western, ours is more traditional and fairy tale!

So, why do these soap operas run? Because of the Indian blood in our veins! A majority of audience, predominantly females (with high EQ) do find Indian shows entertaining because:

1>     We are trained to never watch adult stuff, swears and abuses wherein voice has to be beeped and subtitles become a mix of &,* and # and scenes with violence ever! Lest of all, enjoy it! It’s just natural to feel awkward with such content with family!

2>     We are emotional. The Indian shows do strike some chord. We love fairy tales. We hope to see Suraj being with Sandhya as she pursues her ambition. We cheered Pratigya as she fought through every obstacle. Because though, American shows portray reality and practicality, Indian shows satiate the emotion and sentiment factor! It’s our own as it enacts us! There is atleast a miniscule of belonging with it!

So, American or Indian shows? I really don’t have one answer.  Let’s just say Indian shows are for my television time with family and American shows are fed in my laptop for watching alone or gala-time with friends!






Thursday, December 20, 2012

Yes, the world has come to this!




Some weeks ago I was watching ‘Crime Patrol’, a popular SONY show where they exhibit real cases and actual police investigations. They have an annoying habit of stretching every case to minimum two episodes. Personally, I like the case being concluded in one episode stretch without the ‘To-be-continued’ stage.

My mom said, “Perhaps they don’t have enough cases to showcase and that is why they stretch every case!”

I disagreed. “India has come to a level where there exists a plethora of cases. In fact, these people perhaps select cases based on lucky draw and only dramatize these. There is no scarcity of cases in India!”

And I was right! Today as I was reading the newspaper, there were only stories of rapes, murders and gang-rapes and mass-murders! Not only today, this has increased a lot lately!

The Delhi case where a woman was gang-raped in a private bus and thrown out of it with her boyfriend, grabbed headlines! Everyone discussing about it; feeling the injustice sufficed on her, asking for stricter laws to punish the perpetrators and silently querying their own safety in this country! While most did this, some ^@!#&* in West Bengal were busy doing the very same crime-raping another woman!

Newspapers are so filled with these…. A man murdering his mother-in-law for money, a farmer stabbing a girl mistaking her to be his dowry-rejecting wife, a guy being killed to death by a group of minors for saving a girl residing in his colony from eve-teasing, another senior citizen found murdered in her apartment, a girl battling acid burns as the already-married, cheater guy she loved wanted to avenge the rejection she gave him, a teenage guy scarred the face of his teenage classmate after she ridiculed his friend…… There may not be an end to these!

(P.S. I am not going to include anything about police investigations which favor certain useless matters over such vital cases. Nor am I going to question our elected ministers who are more interested in FDI, increasing reservation for SC/ST and deciding the face of the party for 2014 elections. I will not query the law of my nation which makes the fight for justice more painful than the crime over them!)

 And crime doesn’t limit here! Recently, there took place a massacre of innocents in a Connecticut Elementary school. It killed about 30 people mostly six year olds. And all this from the hands of a twenty year, gun-carrying teenage boy!

Where is Humanity? Seriously, where is it?

Then, there is this speculation that according to the Mayans, the world will end today! The 2012 movie depicts that this will happen with nature killing everything with tsunamis and earthquakes. I say, there’s no need for nature to intervene. In sometime, everybody is going to rape, assault and kill everybody. That would be Doom’s day!

Because most of us have come to it! There’s no conscious, no guilt, no remorse! Ours is a world with numerous religions to follow, infinite deities to worship, unlimited spiritual books to guide…. And we, we all are busy warring against each other to prove supremacy with our hollow hearts and vicious minds. Without caring where true duty lies in. Oh sorry! When we do not possess humanity… how can we possess care and sense of duty?

Someone, reading this, might surely be feeling… ‘No, the world ain’t so bad! People ain’t so terrible.’ Trust me, you haven’t been on the receiving end. While you think this, there’s someone in the corner who is waiting to rape, attack or murder you! Oh yes, the world has come to this! There’s just hate, apathy and illusion of love! And I am not stating any pessimism. (People knowing me would vouch that I am not a pessimist.) I am just broadcasting the truth! Because knowing and accepting the truth helps! If we continue to be ignorant and feel that the world is fine, how will justice prevail?

There are no easy measures to reverse this state. There exists no set of actions which could transform this world into something full of love. There is nothing that can eradicate evil completely. But just, look within yourself. If you are lucky, you might find some amount of humanity still there! Perhaps that might help! #LoveCareRespect.






Wednesday, November 14, 2012

FEAR!!!


We, humans, are extremely fearful people. We fear something in this universe or atleast some aspect about existence and suck about it. That’s the truth! So much that every psychologist has been bragging about it and the number of people and the number of phobias registered have been increasing rapidly.

So we have Acrophobia (fear of heights), Claustrophobia (fear of closed places), Aviophobia (fear of flying), Atychiphobia (fear of failure), Necrophobia (fear of death or the dead) and many more!

Now some which I found as surprises are Tetraphobia (fear of number 4), Terdekaphobia (fear of number 13), Nomophobia (fear of being out of mobile phone contact), Hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia (can anyone pronounce this?) (fear of the number 666) and many more!

You know anything and the fear of that exists in this universe! So much that there also exists Phobophobia (fear of fears)! 

The point is, Every individual fears something! The others find it logical or ridicule about it. But still, everyone does fear!

I am no exception to this too. I do fear a lot of things. This is why I want to share one thing through this blog.

Firstly, it is normal! Because every fear arises out of a reason! No matter how many people ridicule about it and see this as a ‘weakness’, it is perfectly normal!

But, just because it is normal, you should continue living in that fear? No.

Because the more you fear, the more you end up with it and spoiling everything! For example, the more you fear disappointing people, you will disappoint them more. The more you fear losing things, you will lose everything! The more you fear failure, you will fail more! Not because situations ended up there, but because you ended up seeing only that! And even if nothing of that occurred, but you will end up noticing only that.

Ultimately, you end up being controlled by your fear! So, even when you aren’t alone, you will feel lonely. Even when you didn’t fail, you will term it as a ‘failure’. Even when you didn’t get pain, you will feel pain!
And this isn’t limited to fear of certain aspects! It also applies to fear of something! If you fear spiders, anything that creeps beside you will be a spider to you, even if it wasn’t! If you fear blood, every red liquid will be perceived as blood, when it can be tomato ketchup!

This is a fact! You will face your fear every day, not because it came to you, but because you went to it! And this doesn’t restrict here. Fears can get worse… for you and the people around you!  

So, to end this feeling, is to get over it! Start by analyzing the thing you fear…. Is it that bad? How did you get it? And make a conscious effort, to conquer it! Keep your mind restricted to the positives and keep mumbling it when you feel fear! Try to keep yourself focused there. It helps in a significant way! Because, there is MUCH MUCH more to life, than being restricted to a fear!

An example of that would be Robert Langdon. If you have read or seen The Da Vinci Code or Angles and Demons, you would know him! He is scripted as a claustrophobic. So whenever he enters a closed room or an elevator, he shuts his eyes and thinks positives to himself!

Concluding I would like to say, it isn’t easy. Because you have spent a certain amount of years in that fear! So, even when you think it has gone it can come crawling back to you. But, try being focused!

(P.S.  If you are one of those, who read the above post and wondered how fears can be so serious, trust me, you haven’t seen life! That’s good and bad, both! And if you have even noticed a fragment or element of what I have mentioned, I hope, this turns out to help you and the people around you! )




Sunday, November 11, 2012

Happy Diwali



Oh yes, I am very much alive and so is my blog….

Firstly, I would like to thank all the people who kept on asking about my blog even when I offered no new posts…. Your views and suggestions always motivate me to write more….

Now, since Diwali is round the corner… I would take this opportunity to wish each and every one, a very happy, safe and prosperous Diwali (so please excuse the absence of my messages. I did wish here) …. May you have a great one…

Diwali is the festival of lights! Well, this used to be the standard first line in my every “My favorite festival” essay. I am sure every house must have scrapped through its cleaning, lighting, sweets preparations, shopping and the other never ending chores for Diwali.

A few days back, I and my bunch of friends were discussing about this festival- Diwali-then, Diwali-now and how the whole feel of the festival has changed over the years for us.

As a child, my first day of Diwali (i.e. Dhanteras) used to be celebrated at my Nana-Nani’s place. I used to meet my cousins over lunch and then accompany my mother in buying some gold as a part of the tradition.

The second day (i.e. Narakchaturdashi) used to start with my mother waking me and my brother at 5 am, massaging our body with hot oil and Uttana, and bathing us. Then all of us would relish all the sweets prepared. I and all my friends would burst crackers in the society, decorate the entrances with colourful rangolis and diyas and play games the whole day.

The third day would pass by meeting a lot of relatives and exchanging sweet boxes with them. The evening would be Lakshmi-poojan which would go with a simple pooja at home.

The fourth day (i.e. Balipradipada) coincides with the new year of gujaratis. Having lived in a society full of gujaratis, it was a ritual for the young to get up early and visit every house in the building and wish everyone ‘Saal Mubarak’. Every house had a delicacy specially prepared for us. I used to happily oblige with it. The later half of the day used to fly away playing with my friends in the building.

The last day (i.e. Bhaubheez) used to be the best! Lunch used to be at my father’s side family. Every uncle and every aunty would turn up and have a gala-time laughing and teasing each other. My grandmother’s generation would revive their memories and become young with the young. Dinner used to be at my maternal uncle’s place where all my cousins would meet and burst crackers and fire rockets the whole night. I would literally cry every year while departing.

Somehow, a lot of this has changed over the years. I, no longer, burst crackers. I grew out of it very early due to all the air, noise and land pollution it leaves behind (P.S. Not everyone practices this. Noisy crackers have always found their customers.). The ritual of ‘Saal Mubarak’ died down over the years. Visit to relatives and visits from relatives became fewer. Most of my elder cousins left for careers in USA, thus, affecting the gala-time we used to share. The games and all have disappeared and I end up in front of my television for most parts of the day. The 5 am bath has been procrastinated to an 8 am bath. The practice of buying and wearing new clothes has been compromised. The gifts have reduced. The amount of sweets that used to be made has decreased. The rangolis in every entrance has lost its colour. Diwali seems to have lost its spark.

I don’t know if you share the same observation as mine but, for me, the festival of lights has become glum over the years. The tag of ‘festival’ stays but the grandeur seems lost.

Is it all because we have grown up? Our families have increasingly become nuclear? Our social circles have reduced? Longings have deteriorated?

No, I don’t know the answers. And moreover, everyone’s reasons would defer. Some people’s Diwali must have never changed.

Nevertheless, to end this post on a happy note… I would urge everyone to stay happy this Diwali. If you are going through the same, make an honest effort to bring back at the least something about Diwali that you truly miss. And don’t forget to make the people around you happy, because that’s the true essence of a festival!

Happy and Shubh Deepavali…. Have a safe one…. And a wonderful and prosperous year ahead!






Saturday, September 29, 2012

Carrots, Eggs or Coffee!


It’s been more than a month since my last post…. And I feel so deficient without it… Placements took up every amount of time and energy I had… and will continue to do so till I end up with a job!

Firstly, heartiest congratulations to everyone who got a job… and for those who didn't,  don’t worry, I am also in your company (pun unintended) …. We will get soon!

Yes, I didn't get a job in Accenture and Infosys. Perhaps, accepting this as a fact makes it cause a little less pain! Especially after Accenture which had been my lone dream job (Not anymore!). I had been hoping to be a part of it since years in engineering. So not landing in that company, which I was pretty confident about, taking into account my great interview, obviously was a letdown. I am sure all the people who were surprisingly not-in-the-list would agree to my last sentence.

Frankly, I hadn’t made any other plans except Accenture! No other companies as such, no GRE, no MBA, nothing! So perhaps it took me a little more time to accept it. Accept my sort-of failure!

So here I present one story that I went through today… and I hope that it makes you feel nice…

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things are hard for her. She didn’t know how she was going to make it and how she wanted to give up. She was tired of not getting what she desired and struggling through everything.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She took three identical pots, filled them with equal amounts of water and placed each on high fire. Soon the water came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.

She let each of them boil. After twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled out the eggs and placed them in another bowl. She poured the coffee in another bowl. Turning to her daughter, she said, “What do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs and coffee,” replied the daughter.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to touch them. She did and noticed that the carrots had become soft and supple. She took the egg, pulled off the shell, and observed that it had become hard and boiled. She caught the bowl of coffee, viewed its texture, smelled its aroma, and took a sip.

“What does this mean, mother?”
Her mother explained that all the three objects had faced the same adversity; boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to boiling water, it withered and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin exterior shell protected its liquid interior. After taking boiled water, its interior hardened.

However, the coffee beans, totally solid, showed uniqueness. In boiling water, it totally adapted itself and turned liquid.

“What are you, young lady?”
When adversity knocks on the door, when all plans fail, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
Think of this: What am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and failure, I wilt and become weak and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that started with a malleable heart and changed with the heat? Did I possess a fluid spirit, but after a failure, death, breakup, hardship or a trial, have I hardened and become stiff? Does my shell look the same, but within, am I bitter and indurate?

Or am I the coffee bean which actually changed the hot water, the very circumstance that caused pain? When boiling, do I get better by releasing fragrance and flavor?

If you are a coffee bean, things can get worse, hours can turn dark, situations can get ugly, but you will only elevate yourself higher!

So, are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Yes, I didn’t get the job (till now)! Yes, my plan didn’t work out! Yes, I couldn’t crack it when I had it damn easy!

But I am going to find my way…. Become much much more than what this failure brought me to…. Because since school I always learnt, “I can…. I will…. I must!”

(P.S. this blog was not intended to exhibit what people perceive as my ego, but to make me realize and remember this lesson forever! Also, it is for every individual going through the same or worse! So, comments welcome…. Sympathies cut it out….)  

Saturday, August 18, 2012

Realizations....


It’s been a lot of time since my last post! College made my days a lot busier! (Pun intended.)

For the past few days, I have had a lot of self realizations and also many other realizations! (*tongue sticking out*. Yeah, I think a lot!)

I want to share certain of these experiences... They are in no certain order. Just the way they are crossing my mind. I ain’t a good presenter of these things, but I hope it does help you!

1)      Never get demoralized by anything. Never think about the number of people you are competing with! Your true competition and comparison is yourself! Your path is yours! You need to get yourself better at whatever you want to. To give an illustration… What makes Usain Bolt the fastest man on earth? There are billions in this world who can sprint for 100m! Nothing special in sprinting! But if you cut down, how many can achieve this in 15 seconds? Perhaps 100! In 10 seconds? 10! In 9.8 seconds? 5! In 9.6 seconds? 3! In 9.48 seconds? 1! Usain Bolt! The point here is you have to get better… From 15 to 10 to 9.8 to 9.6 to 9.48! Ultimately, you end up victorious!

2)      Sometimes you need to stand up for yourself! There are always some people who speak a lot and never listen! When you haven’t erred, you should trust it and speak up in a smart way. To give an example… Mr. A blasted and let out his frustrations over Mr. B for something B had not committed. After sometime and lot of courage, B spoke up with optimum power and optimum humility. Ultimately, B got something he didn’t anticipate. An apology! Sometimes standing up for yourself fills you up with much required sense of self-confidence. So speak up smartly!

3)      It is impossible to make everyone happy, but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake. Even after trying your best, amassing guilt and rendering apologies, there will still be people who dislike you! Do everything to satisfy them and you end up knowing what they actually talk about you behind your back! You can’t be in the good books of everyone! In another light, pissing people off is damn easy. There will always be people who will get irritated by your actions, words or probably by the way you are! That too very easily, without effort or thought! There are very few people who will accept all your stupid mannerisms and antics and take you for what you truly are.

4)      Never do those things to others that you are not capable of tolerating. Simple rule. If you can’t take it, don’t do it! Never make a mockery of someone, if you can’t bear the sight of people mocking you! Never have prejudices or pass judgements about anyone, if you dislike people doing the same to you! Never talk behind someone’s back, if it hurts when you come to know someone did the same to you! Likewise treat others the way you expect to be treated. If you want people to forgive you for your mistakes, carve a big heart and forgive those who have wronged you. Never ignore anyone’s presence, if you want your presence to be counted. And the most important; Never hurt anyone, if you don’t like getting hurt!

5)      Last and perhaps the most important. Yesterday one of my friends told me to concentrate more on me, my life and my happiness. It was a simple statement, yet it made my day. Sometimes all of us get sad, anxious and worried about unnecessary things. All of us spoil many moods thinking about people who don’t even matter! We stress so much on being right, abiding by rules that sometimes it drains our mind. In this process, we end up losing ourselves and our moments of happiness! We end up doing what we don’t want to and regret it later! Amidst this, try to be happy and do what you are supposed to do! Leave the rest to your destiny. Care for the people who stand by you and those you need always. Trust yourself and everything will go right!